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“Feel” was not on the To Do list, but it made it’s way, thankfully!

48 hours ago I found myself starting this weekend with “no plan”.  I had a LONG “To do list”, but no plan. I knew what needed to be accomplished. I knew what my “stressors” were and what I should have accomplished in order to help ease my mind. I also knew what I really “wanted” to do. I do live a life of several personalities. Just as much as I love to be inside cleaning and “blessing my home”,  I also desire to be “learning” and planning  to Live Intentional and work on my future.  But, with that, I long to be out socializing with my friends as I see their pictures pop up on Facebook. I just know that for now, ” I need to live like no one else, so I can live like no else” in the future!

There is a sidepexels-photo-273132 of me that does love to be outside! Yes this a shocker to some. Wally has always been in charge of the outside of the house, but I do LOVE to Bless my home outside, in my own way. I tend to allow that to be the last place to be, I only have the weekend hours to take care of the Morrison’s so I end up spending more weekends working and doing and being side.

However, as the weekend progressed, I spontaneously got out of the house Saturday and decided to try 2 places to find my MOG dress. (oh for those not following, Mother of the Groom ALMOST purchased one but I really struggled with the price, and the fact that I would need to purchase my first pair of Spanks, and trust me, there was no forgiveness in this material, so it would have run from my ankles to my boobs! So, I snapped out of that, and walked out!

So I had ended the day with a plan for Sunday!  Order the previous dress I found and do our money saving trip to BJ’s. I had taken the time to match up my manufacturer’s coupons to the coupon book that came and I had a PLAN for Sunday! I was thrilled!

And THEN it happened. I woke up in the middle of the night and while laying there talked myself out of spending money at BJ’s on items I didn’t need between now and the wedding (Yes, even though I had coupons!), the panic set in over the money and spending and my reasoning. I FELT like I was making the wrong choice again. It was then I decided that I needed to continue to search for MOG dress, what if there is something else out there and less inexpensive! I mean…that’s the challenge that I love, bargain shopping!

I couldn’t wait for Wally to wake up and tell him of what I thought my new plan would be for the day. I would end up saving even MORE money than I planned, simply cause I decided we “didn’t” need those items right now. So a new plan was going to be in place.

That changed as well just shortly after we woke up. My parents are selling their home of 27 years and quickly approaching the time of when it will all take place with movers, etc. so I had to go claim what I wanted. I was thrilled to be able to inherit some of their pool furniture. We loaded up the truck and next thing I know, within 30 minutes of arriving home I was in my bathing suit scrubbing furniture to rid of the winter ick and rearranging my patio and pool deck! It was AWESOME !  I was in the sunshine, I broke a sweat, I actually FELT the sunshine and got some color for the wedding, and it was miraculous how it felt like everything I wanted to accomplish fell into place, with so much more meaning. I actually took advantage of the 90 degree weather at the end of April instead of staying instead and freezing in the Air conditioning.

When I look back on this weekend of no plans I can’t help but to FEEL so grateful. I was able to sleep in with my Wally on a weekend and be thankful for downtime, it’s precious. It’s our time! A quiet morning during breakfast and then the unintentional spontaneous plan to spend some time with my parents was to both our benefit, and that makes me happy. My parents are finally able to move forward and live intentional in their lives after a year long sale of their home.

To come home and allow myself to be “active” and in the sunshine and spend time with my Rylie, was precious! I mean, bathing suits and a hose….when is that not fun! It brings the kid out in everyone!

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Once I could mentally put aside the mundane tasks and allow myself to get out…

I was able to accomplish a few other things in the home that I needed to and I can honestly say that once I was able to mentally put aside the mundane tasks that I do “weekly” and allow myself to get out and do other things that “meant” the most and allow myself to FEEL the rewards, it was such a stress reliever for me. I felt accomplished. I didn’t realize how much that task and being outside today could open up myself to FEEL alive and realize that I was blessing myself and my home more than any mundane weekly cleaning task, again.

It was okay to NOT have a schedule for the weekend!

I just wish I could remember this! In order to FEEL all the emotions of accomplishment, family time, being active, enjoying the sunshine, and most of all, Blessing the Home and Living Intentional is what our days should be filled with ! What a wonderful Sunday!

What did you do today that made you FEEL the love of the day or loved ones around you?

RL

Posted in Christian Living, Emotions, Goal setting, Living Happy, Living Intentional, Parenting, Personal Development, stress free

If You Quit Pedaling, the Bike will Fall Over…with You On It!

woman-roadI hear this little melody playing from my phone starting off so softly and gradually getting a little louder, and a little louder, my eyes begin to open and very quickly I come to recognize that same ol’ feeling of hopelessness and sadness that just screams, “but I don’t wanna get up!”

I am NOT a morning person and I am definitely not a Monday morning person, and even more than that, I am not a Rainy Cold Monday Morning person!  I feel so strongly about these feeling that trust me, I could keep going, and I KNOW I am not alone on these feelings.

As I am staring into my closet wondering what on earth I want to wear on this day, I just feel so needy. I need new clothes. I need shoes. I need more sleep. I need to just wake up and be happy and perky. Ugh, I just need a new closet! I’m never fashionable at Spring or Fall cause it’s still such a in between time and I am still too cold to wear open toe shows now.  So I as hard as I am trying I’m not able to push myself forward into this Springtime just yet. I should be looking out the window and able to accept these rainy days and see all the beauty that is coming from it.  It is God’s beauty and how it proves that each day, the earth is changing, the trees, the leaves, the grass, etc.

Nope! It’s not just another Monday!

So with these thoughts…my attitude changed.  Nope! It’s not just another Monday.  It’s a Monday, the beginning of the week.  It’s a new day! A New start! A day 1 out of the next 5 that I can spend at work accomplish goals and making a difference, be able to be my creative self, etc.

But the mom in me NEEDS to be home. There are things that I need to accomplish. I need today to be a Monday with 5 days to accomplish “family stuff” and be there for my children, Wally, and more importantly, to Bless my House and my Finances!

Here I sit at my desk and find myself drifting into mothering so easy. My children are on my mind today as they too experience this Monday. So many things happening. It truly doesn’t matter their age, they are our children and we will always feel their excitement, but also their pain and daily struggles as they continue to learn and grow.

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It’s so hard as parents to watch the struggles your kids are fighting. We can’t always help, as bad as we want.  We need to have the hope and just remember, these struggles today will not be the same as tomorrow. Just as with us…each day is different and we constantly are going through changes each day. Mentally and well, truthfully, physically. It doesn’t matter the age, we are gradually growing older and maturing, good or bad.

So in this time of reflection, I turn to my words, phrases, and inspiration that keeps me moving FORWARD!

I have NOT yet reached my full Potential!

I was on a call with a business coach years ago and she asked me a very important question –  Have you reached your full potential?  “Of course NOT”, I answered.

How appropriate today, we have not reached our full potential. In these daily changes we are enduring, we are growing and learning and as long as we are propelling ourselves forward, and we encourage our children to do the same, then are winning!

“He’s still working on me!

There is a song that I learned growing up that I still sing to do this day, I sing it loud and proud and when I feel like a mess and totally screwed up, I sing it louder.

“It took him just a week to make the moon and start, the sun and earth and Jupiter and Mars. How loving and patient he much be, cause he’s still working on me!”

But, my grown up song is one that I heard YEARS ago and continue to sing and listen to as well, one that you just need to Crank It Up and Dance!

I’m a Change in the Making.

With every step that I’m taking
Everyday, you’re chipping away
What I don’t need
This is me under construction
This is my pride being broken
Everyday I’m closer to who I’m meant to be
I’m a change in the making

 

 

A bike can not function without motion. l-135108

 

You, Me, our children, our spouses.  We’ve got to get up, go to to work, and do our absolute best at all times!

We need to continue to strive to reach and set higher goals.  It’s when we  stop and feel complacent that we have give up.

There is also learning, more to explore. The earth continues to spin, that is what makes the days. If it were stop, just stop right where it was, where would you find yourself? Our bikes would fall over, with us on it!

 

So on this Monday, set yourself in a new motion. If you fail, pick up the bike and start again on Tuesday. Pedal hard on this up hill battles, and remember it’s freeing to coast and kick your feet off the pedals every once in awhile, but in order to keep your balance you must keep moving!

The struggle of today, will pass! 

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Pick up that phone, and give yourself the Biggest Selfie Kiss and celebrate you, in motion!

Keep pedaling my friend,

RL

 

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Social, but oh so lonely!

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Sure, I’ve done part my part in the world wide web of social media! I have liked and now LOVED my share of photos and left plenty of well-meaning comments, thrown around an array of emojis and shared my fill of inspirational quotes. I have been connected, to say the least. But, sadly, I haven’t experienced much life hanging out with my girlfriends this year; and it’s left me feeling a little lonely and frustrated. I noticed that I have backed off from Facebook a bit, along with the other social media sites as well.

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In a world overloaded with tweets, texts, and selfies we keep our heads down, eyes glued to our phones, afraid if we don’t, we’ll miss out; when all the while (ironically) we’re missing out on the very world around us. I mean, people don’t actually go out to dinner and just have a good one on one conversation anymore, do they? My husband and I used to laugh, as I am sure you did, that when we were able to get out to dinner by ourselves, we spent the night talking about our children.  Now, we both will pick up our phones and talk about what’s on social media.

Whether we like to admit it or not, social media, overall has taken a toll on our relationships—particularly our friendships. That’s not to say that social media is pure evil, it’s just that Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Snapchat and the like have forever reshaped the way we relate to one another. Gradually, it seems social media has altered the parameters of friendship, and frankly, it’s sad. In looking back over the past year, 8 years that I have been on Facebook, I’ve discovered six areas where social media is wreaking havoc on our friendships.

  • It Creates a False Sense of Intimacy

Social media makes us feel like we know people better than we really do. True, we are caught up in their lives, well, the portion they want you to see. So, let’s
get one thing straight: Liking someone’s photos on Instagram does not make a friendship genuine relationships take time and communication—preferably face-to-face.

Lasting friendships are built on far more than a Facebook history. They’re forged in the fire of life’s peaks and valleys. They’re held together by more undocumented memories than documented ones, and these are known as the sincere moments. The intimate moments shared between friends.

It’s only in our mess, in our brokenness, when we can become fully known. The friends who know us best are those who have seen us at our worst — and loved us any way.

While social media may help us keep up with friends—especially those who live far away it can’t replace personal communication and shared experience. You can only intimately get to know someone through spending time with them in person, not solely online.

  • It Fosters Illusions of Community

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