I hear this little melody playing from my phone starting off so softly and gradually getting a little louder, and a little louder, my eyes begin to open and very quickly I come to recognize that same ol’ feeling of hopelessness and sadness that just screams, “but I don’t wanna get up!”
I am NOT a morning person and I am definitely not a Monday morning person, and even more than that, I am not a Rainy Cold Monday Morning person! I feel so strongly about these feeling that trust me, I could keep going, and I KNOW I am not alone on these feelings.
As I am staring into my closet wondering what on earth I want to wear on this day, I just feel so needy. I need new clothes. I need shoes. I need more sleep. I need to just wake up and be happy and perky. Ugh, I just need a new closet! I’m never fashionable at Spring or Fall cause it’s still such a in between time and I am still too cold to wear open toe shows now. So I as hard as I am trying I’m not able to push myself forward into this Springtime just yet. I should be looking out the window and able to accept these rainy days and see all the beauty that is coming from it. It is God’s beauty and how it proves that each day, the earth is changing, the trees, the leaves, the grass, etc.
Nope! It’s not just another Monday!
So with these thoughts…my attitude changed. Nope! It’s not just another Monday. It’s a Monday, the beginning of the week. It’s a new day! A New start! A day 1 out of the next 5 that I can spend at work accomplish goals and making a difference, be able to be my creative self, etc.
But the mom in me NEEDS to be home. There are things that I need to accomplish. I need today to be a Monday with 5 days to accomplish “family stuff” and be there for my children, Wally, and more importantly, to Bless my House and my Finances!
Here I sit at my desk and find myself drifting into mothering so easy. My children are on my mind today as they too experience this Monday. So many things happening. It truly doesn’t matter their age, they are our children and we will always feel their excitement, but also their pain and daily struggles as they continue to learn and grow.
It’s so hard as parents to watch the struggles your kids are fighting. We can’t always help, as bad as we want. We need to have the hope and just remember, these struggles today will not be the same as tomorrow. Just as with us…each day is different and we constantly are going through changes each day. Mentally and well, truthfully, physically. It doesn’t matter the age, we are gradually growing older and maturing, good or bad.
So in this time of reflection, I turn to my words, phrases, and inspiration that keeps me moving FORWARD!
I have NOT yet reached my full Potential!
I was on a call with a business coach years ago and she asked me a very important question – Have you reached your full potential? “Of course NOT”, I answered.
How appropriate today, we have not reached our full potential. In these daily changes we are enduring, we are growing and learning and as long as we are propelling ourselves forward, and we encourage our children to do the same, then are winning!
“He’s still working on me!
There is a song that I learned growing up that I still sing to do this day, I sing it loud and proud and when I feel like a mess and totally screwed up, I sing it louder.
“It took him just a week to make the moon and start, the sun and earth and Jupiter and Mars. How loving and patient he much be, cause he’s still working on me!”
But, my grown up song is one that I heard YEARS ago and continue to sing and listen to as well, one that you just need to Crank It Up and Dance!
I’m a Change in the Making.
With every step that I’m taking
Everyday, you’re chipping away
What I don’t need
This is me under construction
This is my pride being broken
Everyday I’m closer to who I’m meant to be
I’m a change in the making
A bike can not function without motion.
You, Me, our children, our spouses. We’ve got to get up, go to to work, and do our absolute best at all times!
We need to continue to strive to reach and set higher goals. It’s when we stop and feel complacent that we have give up.
There is also learning, more to explore. The earth continues to spin, that is what makes the days. If it were stop, just stop right where it was, where would you find yourself? Our bikes would fall over, with us on it!
So on this Monday, set yourself in a new motion. If you fail, pick up the bike and start again on Tuesday. Pedal hard on this up hill battles, and remember it’s freeing to coast and kick your feet off the pedals every once in awhile, but in order to keep your balance you must keep moving!
The struggle of today, will pass!
Pick up that phone, and give yourself the Biggest Selfie Kiss and celebrate you, in motion!
Keep pedaling my friend,
Are we doing enough?
I mean, really? Are you? Do you feel like you are?
Well, I bet you don’t. I bet not one mother, or wife, reading this right now feels like they are doing enough to keep their PERFECT home! I bet you don’t even feel like you are doing well enough to keep your “imperfect” home at this point!
Guilt is such a nasty word and it comes from everywhere. My mom can make me feel guilty no matter what age I am. I use this tactic with my own kids, and sometimes don’t realize it. But, sometimes, we bring on our own guilt. Our own guilt comes from our own feelings that we are just aren’t enough. We are constantly looking at other women and comparing ourselves to them; the way they dress, their matching belts to their bags, they’re constantly switching purses to match their outfits, their awesome shoes, and let’s not forget that their nails are ALWAYS done. The list is never ending. It’s a constant struggle for us just to keep up, and, therefore, we feel guilt for not being what we feel we should be.
It’s us always trying to keep up, not only keep up with the Joneses while living next-door, but also keeping up with the Joneses in the workplace, or the mothers that don’t work and you are still working hard every day in an office for someone else. Or vice versa. Maybe you are jealous that some of these women have been able to come out into the workforce after being at home for years and have a career now.
Comparison is everywhere, it’s in our daily lives, in every moment, and that is where our guilt comes from. We need to give our own self “Grace”.
Just as we give others grace we need to be able to accept Grace and know that we try and do the best that we can and sometimes we mess up. The truth is we’re all doing the best we can at this thing called motherhood and womanhood. It’s a journey and it takes lots of learning. We are just imperfect women trying to live a perfect life in our home, our family, our work, friends, neighbors, well, let’s just say, with everyone around us.
Here is what one of my favorite speakers has to say about us putting ourselves second, third, behind the scenes cause we feel like we have to do EVERYTHING, and then sacrifice.
We need to give ourselves permission to be imperfect tonight, to be five places at one time, to not be “all that” but allow ourselves to be perfectly imperfect and know that we are doing the absolute best that we can.
How can we improve? What is our motivation to want to improve?? Our children. Yes, them, once again!
The most powerful way to teach your children how to enjoy life is to let them see you enjoy yours and then they can do the same. Well, my quick answer is that, “I am doomed there, and so are they”! But now, I do have a NEW goal to work towards. Really aiming to live my life intentionally each day instead of “reacting” to life’s issues. I do hope that I can make these changes and that my husband and my kids will see the difference. If I feel better about myself and MAKE the time to do so, it will show! I will get RID of the guilt and take care of me!!
Here’s more on this topic! Neglecting Your Responsibilities – YOU
Let’s stand together and support one another and stop the MOM/WIFE guilt. We need to constantly fuel ourselves to keep us happy! It’s ok! Give yourself permission!
Loving you and ALL that together we CAN accomplish when we just let go of the guilt! Feel the love for yourselves! !